Recently a friend and I were catching up, and we were talking about the major and minor characters in our lives. Who is doing what, why they鈥檙e doing it and when they had it done. Then halfway, we stopped. Why? We told ourselves we were gossiping, and gossip is bad. Or is it?
Growing up, you may have heard several reasons why you shouldn鈥檛 gossip. That gossip tarnishes people鈥檚 names and ruins lives. But that鈥檚 because the kind of gossip you were introduced to isn鈥檛 the ethical kind. Anything done unethically can ruin someone鈥檚 life and gossip isn鈥檛 different. So, let鈥檚 change that; even while we鈥檙e having fun trading stories, gossiping can be fun and non-damaging, and here鈥檚 what we鈥檙e trying to teach you: how to gossip ethically.
Confront all parties mentioned
If you hear gossip, you have to gather information from all parties involved. Your job is to piece all the gossip together to form one cohesive story. Any true gossip knows that鈥檚 the best way to gather information. It also gives you an edge when you hear further gossip, and people will respect you more.
If new information is gathered, always add it to further gossip circles
A characteristic of good gossip is being well-rounded. Update the gossip by adding new information that may alter the perception of the gossip. Give people a chance to form an opinion on this person based on all the information available.
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Never reveal your sources
No matter what is going on, whoever you鈥檙e gossiping with must never know where and how you got the information. It not only protects you, but the network you gossip with. It鈥檚 gossip not a thesis. No need to cite sources, please. Plus, if word gets around that you tell people how your information is gotten, nobody will gossip with you again.
If you are not sure, always include a disclaimer
If the information you鈥檙e sharing has not been confirmed, better tell the network you鈥檙e passing that information across to. You want people to know they鈥檙e working with unverified information.
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Take gossip from biased parties with a pinch of salt
If the person you鈥檙e receiving the information from has been slighted by the party they鈥檙e gossiping about, be sure to not swallow every word uttered. They might be speaking based on malice, and you don鈥檛 want to help them spread their agenda. Better don鈥檛 be an accessory to malicious gossip.
Information requires information
Every gossip gotten should be returned with gossip worth just as much as what was offered. If someone tells you something not a lot of people know, you have to tell them exclusive gossip in return. It鈥檚 like payment for a service.
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